More Input, Less Output

ListenThat unique time of year when friends and family share great food, fun, and conversation is upon us.  If you come across an icy cold conversation this Thanksgiving, simply incorporate the art of listening with a determined ear.

COMPETITION AMONG FRIENDS

Next time you find yourself in a group of socially active bobble heads, take recognition of the stark social patterns.  With high probability, one of the patterns revealing itself is people talking “over” other people; the exchange will mimic the pecking of two fighting roosters. The grammatical tool experiencing the abuse is an AceFrog invention: the interjection junction.

Waiting one’s turn to express their passion or interest in a presented topic can be all but impossible for a few. Too often, social partners cut each other off to save their fleeing thoughts during the crux of the conversation. The end result is confusion and frustration at the loss of the conversation’s rally.

TENNIS ANYONE?

The game of tennis is a terrific analogy  for a conversation. Instead of a tennis ball, a statement or question will take its place. An ideal course of play is a long, equitable rally. No matter who wins the point, both participants leave feeling satisfied about time spent. Alternatively, too often play consist of very short rallies where too much emphasis is placed upon winning. This results in feelings of disappointment at the heels of regret for time poorly spent.  Parties listening in on the conversation slowly lose interest and end up wondering off.

MORE INPUT, LESS OUTPUT

If conversationalists actively put more importance on listening during the course of any conversation, the outcome will always equate to greater value.  Guaranteed. What is the value proposition? Acquiring more insightful information than personally sharing.

A conversation is not a competition. Rather, it’s a friendly volley of grammatical tennis among friends.

 

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